My girl is a little on the plump side - her curves would be amazing with just a few less pounds - but she will not exercise and in fact when I suggested gently that her tummy was a bit flabby she almost had a mental breakdown. Fat is an absolute no-no word. She gets moody if I suggest someone we know is fat, even if it is glaringly obvious.

Now I know this makes me seem really shallow blah blah blah but she has some kind of mental problem when it comes to this; how can I get her to exercise and cut down on sugar without another bust up.

InB4 you said it: I won't dump her.

Whelp: I can throw out empathy, but unfortunately, no solutions. A previous g/f ended up my fiancee, and even though she described me as "the best boyfriend ever," she still had personal issues that shattered our relationship.

I'm not trying to assume our problems are similar, but in my situation, my fiancee had confidence issues that led her to eat a lot. I never stopped complimenting her, and I gave her as much attention as I could. Looking back at past photos, I now realize how much weight she gained during that time. I guess it never mattered to me. She was still a fantastic person and was fun to be around. For those last couple months, she would come home from work always looking sad and wouldn't say much. She dragged me into arguments. I tried couple's therapy, but she didn't bite.

I knew the relationship was over when she had a "girl's night out" and came home announcing how cool it was that a random dude paid attention to her. Obviously, my own compliments weren't enough. She had a meltdown a couple weeks later and moved out in a horrific situation that would require a book to describe.

My current g/f has amazing curves and is a lot better at dealing with (temporary) weight fluctuations. I moved to NYC for her, and it's been amazing. I guess I got lucky.

If your girlfriend is eating through some issue, I hope you can find a way to help her. I wish I had an answer.

-gf

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I have a McDonald's at 15 minutes walk. Would that help? 

Look at the bright side. Now you have two girlfriends in one. Honestly, a little plump isn't so bad. It’s likely a sign that she’s getting comfortable with you. Maybe a little too comfortable I guess.

I’ve seen time and time again when a woman gets cozy with a guy and just stops trying. Perhaps giving her a reason to worry might help. Might not help your relationship, it depends on how you play it. But she feels secure and thus no longer feels the need to sustain her appearance. She has already obtained her life mate.

In the end I would just be honest with her. Sure she might not like what your saying but it may put her on edge enough to do something about it.

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